At the age of 3 to 7 years, the child learns to manage his feelings, understand them, cope with them. And how he does it depends a lot on the family. Does he have his own special place in the family hierarchy, can relations with parents, brothers and sisters be called healthy, loving and trusting?
You need to figure out what roles each plays in the family. Traditionally, it is believed that mom cares, regrets, helps, dad sets the rules and monitors their implementation, and siblings show and tell how to communicate with elders and among themselves.
Of course, this division is arbitrary. Today, each family decides for itself who will play what roles. However, all three components – caring, control and communication – are necessary for the child’s first social, emotional experience to form correctly.
What is its role? Is he small and no one hears him, or is he important to everyone and his opinion is taken into account? Does he help, come up with, share his ideas with others, or quietly goes to play in his room after dinner?
Family relationships affect self-esteem, the ability to take responsibility for their actions, calculate their actions and understand the consequences.
At this age, children often play “real” life: in the store, in the doctor or daughter-mother. Watch these games and understand how the child sees his family, mom and dad, grandmother, brother or sister.
While playing, children are really offended, upset and sad to tears. However, they already know how the game differs from real life. And “make-believe” is not as frightening as “real”.
Law is law
Even at this age, the child needs rules. With their help, he understands when it is impossible or when to wait, even if he really wants to. From 3 to 5 years old, a child can be capricious, fight, cry, trying to achieve what he wants. But if the rules are consistent, clear and reasonable, the child will gradually learn to accept the restrictions, if necessary.
This skill will come in handy in school, where the restrictions will be tougher than at home and in kindergarten, and the requirements are higher.
The ability to behave according to the rules, despite their desires and feelings, is called managing emotions. But the child should not force himself to feel, but should learn to behave. In the future, we only expand the range of behavioral reactions, but the basis is formed by the age of 6.