Moms and dads who want to know if they are raising their children the right way are drowning in the stream of literature written by both professional educators and general demagogues. The common misfortune of most of these books is the reliance on the Old Testament principles of pedagogy, and not on modern research. We have selected 5 scientific publications in which psychologists confirm or, on the contrary, refute some common ideas about parenting.
1. Being a good parent is beneficial.
Research from 2013oneshowed that parents who devote a lot of time to their children, love them and often talk to them feel much happier than chimera mothers and scoundrels who live for their own pleasure and remember the child in commercial breaks between TV shows.
It is curious that this barrel of happiness, which parents receive with the birth of their beloved child, is truly bottomless: even those parents who ridicule those around them by constantly caring for their children, for example, by the desire to call them ten times a day, are really not so funny. … They feel the pleasure of life more acutely than parents who are more moderate in their manifestations of love.
“The more care and attention people give to others, the more happiness they experience and the more meaning they see in life,” the study authors, social psychologists, say. “From this perspective, the more parents invest in the well-being of their children and the more ‘child-centered’ they are, the more happiness they get.”
2. Strict parents harm their child
Even in the United States, where child abuse can easily become a subject of legal proceedings, about 90% of parents have at least once “built” a child through abuse, ridicule or even violence. However, strict discipline is not good for children.