1. develop skills, not a child
In a child without congenital developmental features, if desired, you can train almost any skill. It is quite possible to teach him to read and count, recite poetry by heart before his peers. This will probably arouse the admiration of friends and family, but it will not prepare you for school and later life. Rather, the opposite is true.
The fact is that the child himself understands what games and activities he needs now in order to develop motor skills and physical skills. But physical development underlies both cognitive and psycho-emotional. That is why correctional psychologists, when working with young children with disabilities, start with movement disorders. For example, giving the right toys to correct fine motor skills can help prevent future speech problems.
A healthy child himself is drawn to what he needs. First, you just grab different objects, twist and feel them. Then he starts playing with them. This sequence is related to how the hemispheres develop: first the right one, which is responsible for processing symbols and images, and only then the left one, which is necessary to build logical connections.
Children do not need “development”. The best educational activity for a preschooler is free play. An adult just needs to be there, make sure that the child has something to play with. You don’t have to buy tons of toys – just let him touch all the household items that are safe for him. But if this is not possible, send your child to a kindergarten where teachers encourage and support the free play of pupils.
2.Prepare for school
Some parents believe that if you start taking your child to “developmental” (developmental activities) from two or three years old, then by school age he will just master the rules of behavior and will be able to sit quietly at a desk in the first grade. But the function of the prefrontal cortex, which is precisely responsible for discipline, begins to form by the age of seven, when children usually go to school.
You cannot discipline your child in advance. But if you give him plenty of play in early childhood, the skills necessary for self-regulation will be formed by school. Otherwise, you can get a little genius who has been able to read and write for a long time, but disrupts lessons due to behavior problems.
3.Giving “educational gadgets”
It is believed that with the help of applications for smartphones and tablets, you can develop a child. Some of them are really useful, but only if there is an adult nearby. Let’s say a child needs to do some kind of exercise for attention and memory. Just repeating it over and over again with a speech therapist or psychologist is boring, and then the application will help. Such classes usually last no more than half an hour and do not replace free play.
For a preschooler, gadgets by themselves are not needed and even harm. Until two or three years old, it is advisable not to give the child a smartphone at all (maximum – a few minutes for cartoons under the parent’s control), after three years and before school – communication with the gadget should be limited to an hour a day.