The book “The Power of the Other Hand” was published in 1988, in Russia it was published in 2005. Since then, many different studies have been carried out, scientific works have been published on how the cerebral hemispheres and the work of both hands are interconnected. All of them confirmed what Lucia intuitively and on the basis of experience – her own and those of her many clients – brought out. In 2019, the book was reissued with an updated preface by the author *.
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At 35, Lucia Capaccione was diagnosed with a rare disease. The woman literally “unstuck” because the connective tissue of her body suffered.
Years later, she confessed: thanks to a psychotherapist who handed her a pencil one day and gave her advice to write with her left hand, Lucia’s whole life changed, and after a few years the disease receded. And the woman herself changed her profession and began to help people discover their hidden possibilities and release hidden emotions.
Such is the power of practice in which a person begins to use a second, non-leading hand for writing and drawing. For right-handers, this is the left, and for left-handers, the right.
The dialogue of two hands led to even greater discoveries. And this is not a metaphor, but literally a conversation, correspondence, diary.
The therapist told Lucia Capaccione that we each have three ego states: Parent, Adult and Child. As a result of the exercises in the book, Lucia herself and her clients were able to hear them and even resolve their frequent conflicts. The leading hand, according to the psychologist, speaks in the voice of the Controlling Parent, and the other – in the Inner Child.
Before presenting some of the exercises from the book here, we will provide basic guidelines.
You need to find and equip a secluded place and allow enough time. To get the most out of each exercise, devote 15 to 30 minutes non-stop to it. You will need two pens, two felt-tip pens or a pair of pencils, and A4 or larger unlined paper. A set of colored pencils and felt-tip pens are also useful, but for other exercises from the book, if you suddenly want to test them.
These practices are deeply personal, so keep what you learn about yourself confidential. Or, share only with those you trust.
Exercise 1. Writing with the other hand
- Take a pen or pencil in your other hand (hereinafter, we mean that hand with which you usually do not write or draw).
- Spell or write your name. Don’t worry about how neat, legible, or pretty you get.
- Keep writing. Write in letters or in words how you feel in the process. Ignore spelling and word choices. Read it. Now write your reaction to what you wrote with the other hand with your leading hand. How did you feel? How do you rate your handwriting? What thoughts and emotions have you got? How did you react when you had to write differently, do something unknown and unfamiliar?
Perhaps the first exercise will hit your self-esteem. But it will also allow you to track your typical reaction to difficult or unusual situations. Just watch what is happening. As you continue to write with your other hand, the awkwardness will gradually go away. Notice any new feelings and thoughts that arise.
Exercise 2. Blockbuster
It was created to help you turn to your Cherished Dream, who to be or what to do. Thanks to him, you will analyze those aspects – conscious or unconscious – that prevent the dream from coming true by placing blocks. You can even mentally imagine two characters: one personifies the Cherished Dream (ZM), and the second speaks on behalf of Blok (B).
For example: Artist (ZM) – Perfectionist (B), Inventor (ZM) – Critic (B), and so on. Another hand writes for the Dream, the leading one for Blok.
- Ask yourself: what is my cherished dream? What would I most like to do or be? In other words, express what you are currently blocking.
- Choose or think of two characters: one is ZM, the other is B.
- Start a written dialogue by letting the other hand express your ZM. Write as you wish as fully and in detail as possible.
- Let your leading hand continue the dialogue and tell the whole story, as well as explain why it is blocking your dream.
This exercise will allow you to clearly imagine your Cherished Dream. By writing it down with your other hand, you can more easily separate what you really want from what others want from you.
The Inner Critic may be the naked king. His pseudo-rational arguments will be exposed, and you will have enough willpower to follow your dream, redistributing forces and resources.
In the book of Lucia Capaccione, you will find other practices that will help you identify and resolve internal conflicts, better understand yourself and find new options to change your life for the better.
* Genesis Publishing House, Moscow.