In the first weeks of quarantine, it became clear to everyone that no one was ready for distance learning. Teachers were never given the task of establishing distance work, and parents were never prepared for independent teaching of children.
As a result, everyone is at a loss: both teachers and parents. Teachers try to do their best to improve the educational process. They come up with new educational methods, try to remake the curriculum for new tasks, think in what form to issue assignments. However, most of the parents did not study at the teacher’s college and never worked as teachers.
Everyone needs time to adapt to the current situation. What can you advise to make this adaptation take place faster?
1. First of all, take it easy. Try to assess your strengths soberly. Do what you can. Stop assuming that everything that schools send is compulsory. Don’t be nervous – it doesn’t make any sense. And a long distance must be covered with even breathing.
2. Trust yourself and your intuition. Understand for yourself what forms of education are convenient for you. Try different techniques with your children. See how it is best for your child: when you tell him the material, and then he does the tasks, or vice versa?
Mini-lectures work well with some children, followed by assignments. Others like to read the theory themselves first and then discuss it. And some even prefer to study on their own. Try all the options. See what works best for you.
3. Choose a convenient time of day. One child thinks better in the morning, another in the evening. Observe – how is yours? Now there is a real opportunity to establish an individual study regime for yourself and your children, to transfer part of the lessons to the afternoon. The child worked out, rested, played, had lunch, helped his mother, and after lunch he made another approach to the studies.
4. Find out how long the lesson is suitable for the child. Some people feel better when lessons quickly give way to changes: 20-25 minutes of classes, rest and study again. Other children, on the contrary, slowly enter the process, but then they can work for a long time and productively. It is better to leave such a child alone for an hour or even an hour and a half.
5. Create a clear timetable for your child. A child who stays at home gets the feeling that he is on vacation. Therefore, parents need to make an effort to maintain the regime: get up at a reasonable time, not endlessly engage in lessons and, most importantly, not to confuse school with games. Rest is as important now as it always is – and therefore plan time for it on your schedule.
6. Divide the apartment into zones. Let the child have a seating area and a work area. This is an important condition for organizing training. Some adults who work from home do this: every morning they get up, get ready and go to work in the next room. It helps to change the home format to work and get in tune. Do the same for the child.
Let him sleep in one place, do his homework where he always is, and do the lessons themselves, if possible, in a completely different part of the apartment. Let this be his workspace, where there will be no distractions.
7. Create a schedule for the whole family. And most importantly, include relaxation opportunities for yourself. It is important. Now parents have even less time left because teleworking has been added to their usual duties. And this means that the load is even greater than it was.
Because at home, the processes that went on as usual in the office need to be translated into an online format. At the same time, no one canceled cooking and cleaning. There are more household chores. The whole family is assembled, everyone needs to be fed, washed dishes.
So first decide how to make your life easier. If you try to do everything perfectly, you will only get exhausted and tired even more. Once you understand how comfortable you are, it will be easier to figure out how to make life easier for your child.
Give yourself a little time and a little freedom. It is very important not to forget about yourself. Quarantine is not a reason to perform feats, because we have more free time. The main thing is then to return to an active life healthy and happy.
8. Create a time frame for the child. The child must understand how much time is allotted to him for study, and how much for a break. For example, he studies for 2 hours. Didn’t have time – means, didn’t have time. Other times, he organizes the process better. In a few days he will get used to it and it will become easier.
Don’t let your child sit for lessons all day. He will get tired, become angry with you, with the teachers and will not be able to complete the task properly. Because studying, which drags on all day, will kill any child’s motivation and desire and ruin the mood of the whole family.
9. Assign dads to work with children. Often mom is emotions, games, hugs. Dad is discipline. Trust the father to follow the children’s lessons.
10. Talk to your child about why they are studying at all. How a child sees his education and its role in his life. Why study: to please mom, to get good grades, to go to college or something else? What is his goal?
If he is going to become a cook and thinks that he does not need school wisdom, right now is a good time to explain to the child that cooking is chemistry and biochemistry. Studying these subjects will help him in a complex and intricate process. Link what he teaches with what he wants to do in the future. So that the child has a clear reason for him to learn.
11. Look at quarantine as an opportunity, not a punishment. Remember what you wanted to do with your child for a long time, but you did not have the time or the mood. Play games with your children. Let them try on different roles on different days. Today he will be a pirate, and tomorrow he will be a housewife and will cook food for the whole family or clean up the dishes after everyone.
Turn household chores into a game, switch roles, it can be fun and fun. Imagine that you are on a desert island or get on a spaceship, fly to another galaxy and explore another culture.
Come up with a game that will be fun for you to play. This will give a feeling of greater freedom in the space of the apartment. Compose stories with your children, talk, read books or watch a movie together. And be sure to discuss what you read and see with your child.
You will be surprised how much he does not understand, does not know and how much you yourself do not know. Communication is also learning, no less important than lessons. When you watch a cartoon about Nemo the fish, for example, you can discuss how fish breathe, how the ocean works, what currents it has.
12. Understand that in a few weeks your child will not be left behind hopelessly. No disaster will happen if a child misses something. Teachers in any case will then repeat the material in order to understand who learned it how. And you shouldn’t try to become an excellent student with your child. Better turn the quarantine into an adventure so that later it will be pleasant to remember these five or six weeks.
13. Remember: you do not have to teach children, it is the school’s job. The parent’s task is to love the child, play with him and create a healthy, developing atmosphere. If you feel like you shouldn’t get involved in learning, watch movies, read books and enjoy life. The child will come to you with a question if he needs help.
about the author
Ekaterina Kadieva – psychologist, psychotherapist, co-founder of the Le Sallay Academy high school.
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