Some believe that at least half the time that the relationship lasted should pass, others are convinced that a broken heart cannot be set on a timer. It turns out that it is possible – three months after the breakup, the majority begins to see the bright side in what has happened.
The study, published in the scientific journal Journal of Positive Psychology, involved 155 young people of both sexes. They all survived the breakup 11 months ago. Most of the survey participants (71%) agreed with the positive statements “I learned a lot about myself”, “I grew up as a person” and “I became more purposeful and collected.”
The rejection that we experience when parting activates the same areas in the brain as physical pain
Of course, three months is a suspended sentence: for some of us it takes more time to heal a heart wound, for someone less. Although many believe that the initiator of the break is psychologically easier – because he has time to prepare for parting and he wants it, this is not so. As the study showed, both parties, regardless of whether the participant was the initiator of the break, it takes about three months to recover.
Analyzing the results, the authors of the study came to the conclusion that “perhaps emotional growth and positive emotions are much more important lessons of separation than was customary to think before.” If you express the same thought that became Nietzsche’s winged words – that which does not kill us makes us stronger.
Parting makes us experience symptoms that are similar to breaking up in a chemical addiction – therefore, “throwing” former love out of our heads is so difficult.