To be face to face with her
85% of survey participants in Russia and 83% in France met with death, as they say, face to face. Death remains an integral part of life: we pay our last tribute to the deceased and we mourn for them.
The results of the survey show that the overwhelming number of people mourned the loss of a loved one at least once, came to see and say goodbye to him for the last time.
Reverence or fear
Death is often viewed as a transition to another dimension of being, as the natural completion of a life’s journey, or as an individual tragedy. The attitude towards death depends not only on culture, traditions, religious values, but also on other social and psychological factors. It is closely connected with our attitude towards life and the people around us – near and far.
A comparison of the survey results obtained in Russia and in France is suggestive. Our experience of meeting the death of loved ones is approximately the same, both for the French and for the Russians, it is accompanied by a feeling of sadness.
But the French reactions seem more personal and at the same time more addressed to others. Death causes a feeling of respect in 47% of the French and only 6% of Russians (a difference of 8 times), a feeling of grief – in 34 and 18%, respectively, sympathy – in 28 and 11%, calmness – in 17 and 5%. Fear and anxiety are expressed almost the same: 22% versus 18%. But egocentric denial of the event, unwillingness to believe what happened was noted by only 4% of the French and 17% of the Russians.
What explains these differences? It is possible that the point is not at all that we are less emotional, but in our cultural characteristics.
The question of the meaning of death (where and why do we go?) Historically precedes the question of the meaning of life
Traditional cultures liberate people from the fear of death through the idea of immortality or the transmigration of the soul, but at the same time cultivate reverence for it. Other civilizational models highlight the value of the life of each individual person, death becomes a tragedy, which, however, is softened by the consciousness of the continuity of life.
It has been proven that both in the history of mankind and in the development of an individual person, the question of the meaning of death (where and why do we leave?) Historically precedes the question of the meaning of life (why and for what do I live?).
The Soviet regime undermined the traditional peasant-patriarchal reverence for death as the result of a lived life, but did not replace it with a philosophy of individualism. Moreover, she was irreconcilably hostile to this approach. In the world of “cog people” there are no irreplaceable ones, so their departure is more regrettable than respectful.
Have you ever seen a dead person?
Russia: “Yes” – 85%, “No” – 12%, refused to answer – 3%.
France: “Yes” – 83% “No” – 16%, -1% refused to answer.
What word (phrase) can describe the feeling that you experienced at the sight of the deceased? (We asked only those who had already faced death to this question. Several answers could be given)
Revered – 6%
Sorrow – 18%
Empathy – 11%
Fear, anxiety – 18%
Calm – 5%
Embarrassment – 9%
Horror – 7%
Unwillingness to believe – 17%
Disgust – 7%
None of the above – 4%
Refused to answer – 3%
Revered – 47%
Sorrow – 34%
Empathy – 28%
Fear, anxiety – 22%
Calm – 17%
Embarrassment – 10%
Horror – 7%
Unwillingness to believe – 4%
Disgust – 4%
None of the above – 2%
Refused to answer – 1%
Who was the deceased? (We asked only those who had already faced death to this question. Several answers could be given)
Father or mother – 11%
Grandfather or grandmother – 25%
Another family member – 17%
To a friend or acquaintance – 12%
Stranger – 23%
Spouse – 4%
Your child – 4%
Refused to answer – 4%
Father or mother – 53%
Grandfather or grandmother – 38%
Another family member – 39%
To a friend or acquaintance – 30%
Stranger – 23%
Spouse – 6%
Your child – 5%
Refused to answer – 0%
In Russia, the poll was conducted on the website of the Psychologies magazine, and 6,120 people took part in it, in France – by the CSA Institute of Public Opinion, 1003 people answered the questions of sociologists.