1. Take your time to orgasm
Family therapist Gracie Landes thinks you don’t have to rush your orgasm. You will get more pleasure if you gradually approach it. You don’t have to have an orgasm at the same time. The main thing is that both have fun and do not lose contact. Act slowly, increase arousal, tease each other. Decrease and increase the intensity of the sensations until you decide it’s time to release.
2. Ban gadgets in the bedroom
Clinical sexologist Anna Randall says the bed is only for sleep and sex. There is no room in the bedroom for phones and other gadgets. It’s hard to tune in to sex when your partner is more interested in the internet than your body. If you cannot live without entertainment, try adult films, they will kick off a passionate night. You can light candles or read erotic stories to each other.
3. Accept your body
Sex psychologist Megan Fleming notes that many men and women are worried about changes in their bodies. Sexuality is a state of mind. It does not depend on age or size of clothing. Accept your sexuality.
The partner feels your mood and energy. Find ways to turn yourself on – wear nice underwear, light candles, smile. Each of us is responsible for making contact with our inner sexuality.
4. Teach each other
Who knows better than you how to please you? Anna Randall invites you to sit comfortably next to each other and take turns watching as each brings himself to orgasm.
Seeing your man do it will be one of the most exciting and rewarding experiences of your life. Sit between his legs and watch.
A gaze stimulates arousal and strengthens intimacy. This is a very intimate gesture.
When it’s your turn, take your partner’s hand and control its movements. Show your partner whatever you like.
When it’s over, hug and talk about what you’ve learned. Intimacy in sex life will move to a new level.
5. Make eye contact
Sexologist Kimberly Resnick Anderson recommends maintaining eye contact for at least two minutes. A gaze stimulates arousal and strengthens intimacy. This is a very intimate gesture. Many couples avoid this powerful aphrodisiac because they feel too vulnerable.
6. Plan sex
Many couples agree that they would like to have sex more often, but everyday chores and worries hinder spontaneity. Sexologist Ursula Ofman believes that the best way to have sex often is to plan ahead.
Think how you want it to be. What’s new you want to try? When your partner finds out that you are planning sexual pleasures, it will excite him. Also, you yourself will tune in the right mood even before real physical contact.
7. Share your fantasies
Few couples share their sexual preferences, expectations, and fantasies. Kimberly Resnick Anderson says many of her clients feel ashamed or repressed.
Release your erotic script and share it with your partner. It will give you a sense of freedom and excitement.
Many people think that the partner is not interested in their fantasies, not to mention how to participate in the implementation. However, couples who have not had sex for a long time manage to restore their sex life after such an exercise in the therapist’s office. When you find out about your partner’s sexual fantasy, it will turn you on.